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  • Sometimes you don’t know. Or think it’s not important.

    There’s this thing basically (you’ve probably heard about it), “I don’t like X people, but you’re good because you’re not like them”. X can be race, gender, any other things. When you are with that kinda person as long as they like you, you won’t feel how they are, they’ll treat you nice but it’s an exception not the rule. But when they don’t like you, they revert back to treating you like the X group. They’ll even go “I knew X would be like this” and all.

    Now in many cases if they were vocal about it from the beginning you’d notice and might get away. But in many cases they won’t be vocal, or they’ll talk about it with some extreme examples which you might feel is justified and you know you’re not like that so it’s fine. And in those cases you yourself might hate those subgroup for ruining your reputation so you might even bond over that.








  • Wait people don’t like drinking water? Drinking water (not warm) when you’re thirsty is a really good feeling. I only struggled with forgetting to drink water when I’m not thirsty, but once I am I drink.

    Seeing the sugar addiction and soda problem maybe it was because I didn’t drink those regularly growing up. They were just treats. Also as a child we had fun eating certain fruits that were sour/bitter and then drink water after that, it makes the water taste sweet.

    Maybe you can try eating/licking lemon/lime a bit and drink water later.







  • Classes might help. But the important part is someone with experience doing it for you until you get a hang of it. Someone giving you lession on what to do might give you knowledge but it takes practice, reminders etc. I know you said both is good. I agree with that as things change, some practice in the past might not be good now, but that might also come from every generation resetting the knowledge, if you have generational knowledge passed, and collected and refined with community and science, then the things that work well will stick out longer.

    Also, no paternity leave in many places, and short maternity leave (looking at US with zero federally required maternity leave), means people take those for recovery and do not have as much free time before they have the baby.



  • So why are mothers expected to just figure things out on their own? We humans have women living way past fertile age because they were important for children, and suddenly we decided we don’t need grandma’s help passing along generational knowledge and helping first time mothers. Grandma/Grandpa are supposed to be free and focus on helping the parents so they learn and don’t make mistakes because they don’t know anything.

    And community too. It’s so isolated. Makes me sad, and afraid to have children.


  • That’s most probably true for normal cases. I’m thinking of cases where women like other women. So they don’t want to be intimate with their husband anyway. So him losing interest would work great. So it’d be akin to living with a group of girls and an annoying guy who owns the place. Again I’m just making assumptions.


  • Hi. I don’t have sources but I think it makes sense logically.

    Like if you’re a lesbian and want to be with someone in a society like the one where you can’t have lesbian relationship but a guy can have multiple wives, I think you’d get into the same harem. You’d consider the guy as a cost of being with the one you want.

    And maybe there are good guys too, and they just let you be there and live how you like. I don’t know how prominent arranged marriage is in those cultures, but some guys could be doing that and just sheltering people too.



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